I want to let you all know about how my boyfriend surprised me. I’d like to tell you about the freaky situation I was part of today (it reminded me yet again that there are a lot of sick people out there), HOWEVER, there is something that has been on my mind for months now and I just can’t keep it in anymore. I have to bring this fucking huge rant up…. finally. Buckle yourselves in dear readers, this is going to be a poorly structured (as usual), epic rant. This may offend some people, but to be honest, I really don’t care. I just don’t. Sorry. Some of you may think that this makes me a terrible person, but once again – don’t care. I pay around $72 a year to have this piece of space on the internet, so yes, I can type and share whatever the hell I like.

Growing up, I was raised by a pretty religious family, they are greek orthodox. My grandparents are very religious, so religious, that they truly believe going to church or seeing a priest can cure things such as autism. When I was younger, my insane mother used to tell me all sorts of stuff about the Bible and Jesus and God etc etc. Some of the stories used to scare the hell out of me, especially the stories related to Satan and what would happen to me if I ever sinned. She used to warn me against trusting anybody who seemed too good to be true, too nice to be true. As that could be Satan – in disguise, attempting to lure me away from God. Later, as I grew up, I realised that human nature in general is a bloody sin. If hell is real, then we’re all going there. When I was younger, I used to pray every single night… in fact, I still pray. Judge me, whatever, like I give a fuck. I’ve realised life is too short to care about what other people might think of me. These days, I’m not too sure who or what I’m praying to exactly. I prayed every single night while I was in hospital, afraid that I was about to die, yes, I did find it comforting I suppose. This sort of ‘religious’ practice, I don’t mind. My decision to pray before I go to sleep on most nights doesn’t affect anybody. I’ve always been so against shoving religion down somebody’s throat. Even my highly religious yiayia doesn’t think bringing up your religion to somebody you have only met is a good thing and she insists that no matter what, it is not our duty to judge or hate others.

It’s a shame that religion affects some people so much, that their views begin to negatively impact others. I don’t think religion has anything to do with this, but my own mother, unfortunately, is quite racist. Yes, it’s embarrassing as hell and it utterly disgusts me. She refuses to accept that she is racist though. Actually, I’ve realised that there are a lot of racist people, members of my family say a lot of racist things and it makes me cringe. I won’t bring all the examples up right now, it’s far too mortifying to share some of the things that people related to me have said. You know what else disgusts me as equally as racism? Discrimination in general. Discriminating against somebody because of the way they might dress, look etc. You get the point. Homophobia is a form of discrimination and this is related to what I’m going to type about, right now.

Not too long ago, the president of the United States, Barack Obama (incase some of you weren’t aware of him) publicly supported same-sex marriage. Some people criticised the move as a stunt to gain more support as the elections are just around the corner. I’m not from the U.S. I watch The Daily Show and Colbert Report, but that’s about as far as my knowledge of U.S Politics extends, so I’m not going to comment on the timing of his statement. What frustrated me, was the amount of negative responses that were floating around cyber space. I read comment after comment, all basically expressing that marriage is being destroyed by gay people.

Hold up a second.

If you want to discuss marriage being destroyed, let’s look at us straight people first, shall we? I’m sorry, but who invented divorce? pretty sure that wasn’t gay people. According to my highly religious yiayia, divorce is also technically a sin. I wonder how straight people who oppose gay marriage would feel if the government decided to suddenly outlaw divorce. My dad is against gay marriage and he is currently separated from my mother. Are you telling me, that (their old heterosexual relationship) sort of marriage is fucking ‘sacred’? I don’t think so. FAR from it actually. My parents ‘marriage’ was probably one of the most fucked up, mentally (and often physically) destructive, poisonous, relationships I’ve ever seen in my entire life. To be honest, I would have so much preferred to have been raised by two women or two men who were in a loving relationship than a heterosexual couple who were constantly screaming at each other in my presence.

Another thing, how is two gay people getting married negatively affecting ANYBODY? It’s not. People who are against gay marriage are essentially creating their own problem. A problem that doesn’t need to exist, a problem that is so unnecessary, it’s stupid. A problem that is SO pointless, it baffles me that it even exists. Us humans are experts at creating drama.

Most people who are against allowing gay people to be married, feel this way because of religion, because of God. When I was younger, I was informed that God created EVERYTHING. Literally, everything, me, you, your mum, chocolate, the planets, our solar system, the stars, the universe, those thoughts in your head… yeah, they’re not yours, they’re god’s. So, if God created everything, that means God created gay people too. If being gay is morally wrong then I’m pretty sure God would have wiped them all out by now, but no, gay people still exist, if being gay is so wrong, than why would they exist in the first place? BESIDES, who are we to decide what is wrong and what is right? The very idea of right and wrong is a human fucking idea, I’m pretty sure if gay people naturally happen to exist, they’re not ‘wrong’. Homosexuality has been observed in species other than humans, so what are you trying to tell me? Satan brainwashed some random animals too? Give me a break. To be honest, that sort of moral right or wrong doesn’t even really exist, humans are just humans… nature is just nature. Morals were created so the society we have formed can function ‘properly’.

Even if you still want to stick to a religious theory. According to God, only God should have the power to judge and control others. Why are people so against the idea of gay people getting married anyway? If it’s really so ‘wrong’ than those who are against it will go to heaven and all the gay people and their supporters will go to hell, what’s the problem? Like I said before, life is too short, people should stop trying to control the lives of others and focus on their own damn life.

What else baffles me? Ah yes, I don’t understand why gay people should not be allowed to legally be married. If individual churches want to deny them a religious ceremony, than so be it, the government should stay out of church. Having said that, THE CHURCH SHOULD STAY OUT OF THE GOVERNMENT TOO! Law should NOT be influenced by religion, that is when everything gets messy and all sorts of people get screwed over because of the extreme beliefs of a few people.

You know what else I hate? When a straight person defends gay rights, some idiot always assumes that the straight person must be a ‘closet gay’. I  became just as angry and sickened when I found out there had been a rise in violence against Indian students in Melbourne a few years ago. Does that mean I’m a freaking closet Indian? No, it means I don’t tolerate this sort of discrimination. Whether you like it or not, eventually, gay people will have the same freedom of choice that we do. They will have the choice to get married, they will. It might be in fifty years, it might happen in five days, but it will happen, and when it does, most people will think to themselves how stupid people were when the choice was illegal. Just like we look back at the oppression of black people and the lack of women’s rights with disgust and embarrassment today.

Some might say that lack of choice for gay people does not compare to the oppression of black people, but what they don’t understand is this. Young gay people already find it hard enough to come out, many of them feel frightened, confused. How sad is that? The fact that they feel frightened. When a straight person realises they are attracted to the opposite gender, they don’t feel frightened. They don’t think anything of it. The fact that the choice for a gay couple to get married isn’t there, sends a strong message of hate. It’s telling gay people that they’re not equal, they’re not normal. These stupid rules are telling gay people that they’re not normal enough to have all the rights that us straight people have.

A few other common arguments I read from the other side are:

“Support natural marriage, have the courage to stick with the truth.”

Riiight, ‘natrual’ marriage. First of all, marriage is a human creation, it’s not ‘natural’ in that sense. Being in a relationship is natural, marriage is basically a legal title, and we should offer this legal title to gay couples who are in love too. I don’t see how being against gay marriage is ‘true’. Do you know what is true? The fact that there are shit load of gay people, and guess what? They are normal and natural and true too.

“Thank you for supporting traditional marriage and family values.”

LOL. Family values, man… a lot of family values are FUCKED. I hate all this talk of ‘traditional families’, I have a ‘traditional’ family and I fucking hate it. My traditional dad and traditional mother are so bloody illogical sometimes that it makes me want to bang my head against a wall until I feel numb. Also, tradition isn’t necessarily a good thing. Being old fashioned is almost a failure to progress with the times. Everything is constantly changing people, keep up! You know, it was once tradition for people to fight to the death for the purpose of entertainment. Is that a good thing? Fighting change is like those people who fight age and end up with lifeless, stiff, faces. Let the human race age gracefully.

“Gay marriage does not help human pro-creation, therefore it is wrong”

WHAT is the big bloody deal about keeping our race alive? Gay people aren’t going to wipe the human race out people, TRUST ME. There are a lot of humans living on earth right now and we’re basically like a huge super disease on the planet. We’re literally sucking the juices out of earth, and killing all of its resources for our own gain and luxury. Also, news flash. The human race is not going to exist forever, no matter how much you want it to. If you look back at history, every species has a time limit and I highly doubt that we’re going to be the exception. We’re going to be wiped out or eventually evolve. You might choose to deny all of this though, you know, if you don’t believe in Science. Also, whether gay marriage is legal or illegal, gay people aren’t going to suddenly begin procreating, so I find this argument especially pointless.

You know what’s ‘wrong’?! Making a group of people feel so unwanted and isolated, that individuals part of this group commit suicide. That seems a lot more unreligious to me.

WHY is this whole thing even an issue? We should be focusing on things like all the children in Africa dying due to totally preventable illnesses. I think I’ve pretty much said all I wanted to say now. Bring on the hate mail.